Present nightmare.
I can never find anyone good to vent at any more (well, that and I'm at my uni computer that has no MSN) so I figure my blog is as good as any.
Now, those who know me will know that I'm a very thoughtful gift giver. I really notice what people like, and most importantly, what people need. I very rarely give people random, generic gifts like random pieces of jewellery and whatnot. I like the personalized touch, that extra bit of 'Oh my god wow, I really like/needed this, thanks!'
(Of course, this doesn't mean I go around giving out toasters or forks..unless the person really likes either).
I spend a lot of time deciding on and choosing presents, especially for the people I care about.
And what I really, really hate, is when a present idea that I have carefully thought up and ALREADY PURCHASED (key point) has already been presented by someone else to the person I was intending it for.
A lot of people don't understand why this is such a big deal. 'Give it to someone else,' they say. Or 'I still want it, just give it to me'.
Thanks for trying to make me feel better, but it doesn't.
First point: I don't want to give you something you already have and don't need. I don't care if you still want it. The whole point of the gift is lost if you already have something like it - UNLESS the one you got is completely horrible and you hate it. (Like, I don't know, a Barbie bag or something). It must be that atrocious for me to feel even slightly mollified.
Second point: Regifting is a lot of times out of the question because presents that I choose for the people I care about are personalised. I mean, say I wanted to give Tao a mug with Ariel on it, but she already had the exact same one. Who else am I going to give a mug with Ariel on it? And even if I could find someone, the value of the gift, again, is lost - because I personally chose it for her. The phrase 'jie hua xian fo' - borrowing flowers to give to Buddha (I tried to type it in Chinese but it was really annoying me so I gave up) comes to mind. It's not quite that bad, but comparable.
Sigh. I don't know what I'm going to do now. Despite my earlier post I think I will likely end up regifting and finding something else instead.
posted by FluffyRed @ 1:21 PM
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